Some people who have had adverse childhood experiences, it seems, may grow to develop subtle ‘deepfake’ behavioural traits to create a feeling of mastery over other individuals in the vicinity? They exhibit a pathological need to violate the unique right of every individual to exist responsibly and freely with an uncoerced life that does not feel constrained and subjugated unfairly? They seem to go through a cycle of volitional mistreatment of vulnerable others that they may dislike, envy or wish to exploit – for their own personal whims and fancies that are not in the true interest of that other person. The recipient is then forced to go through a peculiar unsettling triad sequence of adoring Idealization, then condescending Devaluation, and dismissive Rejection in cycles – as if aiming to crumble the latter to a state of being an exploitable & denigratable ‘it‘…. than a person in their own right who is deserving of humane co-existence, honour, compassion, harmony, autonomy, interdependence and encouragement. This nature may lurk just under the surface till challenged or uncovered. I recently crossed a few personalities (some professional, some religious, some commercial) – previously seemingly helpful, but transiting to the latter persona when checked/called out with a seeming sudden switch – an emerging of a mean side of sorts? Then I observed another trait – covert high egocentricity, a peculiar tendency as if to revert to cautious retreat to surface banality & civility, concealing ‘exploitative receptor sites’, with ‘reluctant helpfulness’, superciliousness, viciously contemptuous control attempts, much like a thief trying to erase or cover own tracks & motives – that seemed to be in non-transparent layers. On reading and reflecting around this symptom complex – one is led to the potentially malignant entity – Covert Narcissistic Personality disorder that is very toxic when accosted with honest query of motives. Is there a Cure for such – or is The Question really to be that famous ‘bethsaida’ one : “Do you want to be healed (or do you delight in the kickbacks) of it?”
Was led to remember something I read a while ago – “But evil men and impostors will grow worse and worse, deceiving and being deceived.” (Timothy 3:13). It made me wonder – are such good associations, improvable, or will they and their allowers both end in regrets, loss & ruin?
